Dear Coleen,
After ending a long-term relationship with my partner four months ago due to various issues, he initially pleaded for me to stay and then tried to win me back with affection. Recently, he reached out again, claiming to be in a new relationship but suggesting we remain friends. Despite his questionable behavior during our relationship, seeing a photo of his younger girlfriend sparked feelings of jealousy and thoughts of reconciliation.
However, I recognize that my emotions may be influenced by my ego, as he may be trying to incite jealousy by flaunting his new relationship. It is crucial to remember the reasons for ending the relationship and consider whether anything would truly change if we were to reunite. Chances are, he has not altered his behavior, leading to a potential repeat of past issues.
Moreover, it is premature to establish a friendship given the recent breakup, and there is no obligation to maintain contact, especially if there are no shared responsibilities like children. Cutting off communication, ignoring messages, or even blocking his number may be necessary to move forward and avoid being drawn back into a cycle of emotional turmoil.
In conclusion, it is advisable to prioritize self-care, resist the urge to engage with manipulative behaviors, and focus on personal growth post-breakup.
Warm regards,
Coleen
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